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17th Aug 2026

How to Forgive What You Can’t Forget: Finding Freedom After Hurt & Betrayal

How do you forgive someone who hurt you without forgetting what happened?

In this episode of The BraveHearted Woman Podcast, let’s take a deeper look at forgiveness and why holding onto anger, resentment, betrayal, and unforgiveness can keep us stuck in the past.

But forgiveness is often misunderstood.

Forgiving someone doesn't mean pretending the hurt didn't happen. It doesn't mean forgetting, excusing wrongdoing, immediately trusting someone again, or automatically reconciling with them.

Instead, forgiveness can be a conscious decision to release the emotional weight of what happened and place the hurt in God's hands while continuing to grow in wisdom, discernment, boundaries, and healing.

Let me explain how to forgive what you can't forget and share practical steps for releasing resentment without denying the reality of your experience.

She also addresses an important truth: forgiveness and justice can coexist. Forgiving someone does not mean tolerating abuse, ignoring injustice, abandoning healthy boundaries, or refusing to seek appropriate legal or professional help.

Most importantly, forgiveness is about your freedom and your future, not giving the person who hurt you continued power over your life.

In this episode, you'll learn:

  • Why unforgiveness can keep you emotionally stuck
  • The difference between forgiveness and forgetting
  • How anger, resentment, criticism, and constantly replaying the past can reveal unforgiveness
  • Five questions to help identify whether you're holding onto a grudge
  • What forgiveness is and what it is not
  • Why forgiveness does not require an apology
  • Why forgiveness does not automatically mean reconciliation
  • The difference between forgiveness and trust
  • Why trust must be earned
  • How forgiveness and healthy boundaries can exist together
  • Why forgiveness doesn't mean allowing abuse or injustice to continue
  • The potential emotional, relational, and spiritual benefits of releasing resentment
  • Practical steps for forgiving someone who hurt you
  • How to stop allowing your past experience to become your identity

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

1:11 - Why forgiveness matters

1:41 - Common misconceptions about forgiveness

5:08 - What is unforgiveness?

8:24 - 5 Questions to identify unforgiveness

9:31 - What Forgiveness Is NOT

16:05 - Reason why you should forgive

18:04 - Practical steps to forgive

21:57 - How to take action today

Quotations:

“Forgiveness is not a memory relapse. You don't just forget what happened, but it is a memory release.” - Dawn Damon

“Your healing and your freedom and your release and your restoration of joy is not predicated on them asking or giving you an apology.” - Dawn Damon

“Forgiveness is a free gift. Nobody earns that. You give it freely. But trust me, now that's a different story. That is earned.” - Dawn Damon

Resources:

🎁 FREE Download: Brave Affirmations for an Abundant Life: https://www.braveheartedwoman.com/brave-affirmations

📚 Get a copy of Dawn’s NEW book The Making of a BraveHearted Woman: Courage, Confidence, and Vision in Midlife: https://www.amazon.com/Making-BraveHearted-Woman-Courage-Confidence/dp/B0DTJ1CWLM

📞 Book a FREE 15-minute strategy call with Dawn: https://www.braveheartedwoman.com/book-a-call

Connect with your BraveHeart Mentor, Dawn Damon:

💞 Email me at: dawn@braveheartmentor.com

💞 Website: https://braveheartedwoman.com/

💞 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bravehearted_woman

💞 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/braveheartedwoman

💞 Podcast: https://the-bravehearted-woman.captivate.fm/listen

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The BraveHearted Woman
Helping midlife women live brave by exploring the traits of success: Vision clarity, Identity confidence, disciplined mindset, empowering self-talk, and positive habits with courageous actions.
Welcome to The BraveHearted Woman, a podcast dedicated to calling out the brave, bold, beautiful dreams women have for their lives. I’m your BraveHeart mentor, Dawn Damon.
I’m a Confidence Coach, Author, Teacher, and Speaker, whose ultimate goal is to champion women like you!
As your BraveHeart mentor and certified coach, I push you to shed false limits, labels, and lies, so you can find yourself, discover your dreams, boost your confidence, and flourish in midlife and beyond. And because I know how scary it can be to take steps of courageous action that lead to change, I want to support and equip you as you move toward any life transformation you desire!
Our discussions cover various topics for mid-life women, including bold life reinvention, beauty hacks, powerful mindsets, healthy habits and disciplines, physical health, spirituality, and soul healing. I help awaken your heart to believe and to see what is possible!

We explore the mindsets of a successful woman, and talk about what I call the “5 Fortitudes of a BraveHearted Women;” of course, I use the acronym BRAVE.
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HI! It's great to meet you. I'm Dawn Damon, a Podcaster, Best Selling Author, Speaker, and Mentor of BraveHearts and Bold Visionaries . I love to coach and empower women to Live their Brave Vision with courage and fire! I'm the founder of the FreedomGirl Sisterhood Conference and Podcast.

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