The Cost of Ingratitude

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Hey beautiful women. This is Dawn Damon, the Brave Heart mentor and you're listening to the brave hearted woman. This is a podcast designed to help you find your brave so you can live out your beautiful vision. I have been working with women for years. And now I want to help you too. I'm here to awaken the brave heart inside of you so you can ignite the flame of your vision you can reach your goals and achieve your dreams. Come on. Let's get brave

it's good to be with you again Braveheart? How are you? Well, here we are. The holidays are upon us. I don't know if you're ready or not. But many times here in Michigan where I live, we get snow this time of year it's coming. And so very often people will say, Oh, I'm not ready. I'm not ready. And you know what I've discovered? Whether you're ready or not, here it comes of the holidays are like that, too, aren't they? Whether we're ready or not? Here it comes. Here comes the family time. Here comes the pressure. Here comes the stress whether we're ready or not. Here comes the expense. Here comes the cooking. Do you cook? Yeah, not my favorite. I like eating food. I like buying food. I just don't really love preparing food. But whether we're ready or not, here it comes. And so I want to empower you with something as Thanksgiving for me has just passed. And this time of year, we're really focusing on what it means to be thankful and grateful. But I'd like to talk to you today about what it means to be unfaithful, in grateful and in great in gratitude. Boy, even those words, they just don't roll off the tongue very well. And I was thinking about this the other day, I was writing a blog and it started me processing this that as we enter this magic of the holiday season. It really strikes me that we're ushered into all of this glorious enchantment, through the invitation of thanksgiving. So Thanksgiving holiday is the kickoff to this whole season. And I think how perfect that only with grateful hearts, can we really prepare ourselves for this season, this season of gift giving and family reflection, selfless acts, this season of serving others, all that Thanksgiving, and Hanukkah and Christmas and let's not forget Festivus all of these wonderful holidays that we have, but they really call us to a higher level of gratitude. And so, we've learned a lot about gratitude. In the last few years, we've learned so much about it with medical science, we've learned about it spiritually, of course, we've learned about what it does to our heart, our soul, our body. And we really know that, that gratitude is more than a moment to give thanks. It's more than a day. It's a lifestyle that we need to develop a lifestyle of thank Thanksgiving and gratitude. And we know that it has to be more than just lip service more than lips that just, you know kind of spit out these phrases of appreciation, but they're not connected to a heart that's flooded with or streaming with the waters of gratitude, just overflowing and splashing on others. I've been in the presence of people who splash their gratitude and they just live that life. My my son in law is one of those kinds of people. He's just very grateful and thankful and it's very authentic. And I love people with gratitude, that kind of spirit, that kind of perspective. And if you own that kind of perspective in your life, you can grow a spectacular life, you will flourish, you will bloom. It will be lush and vibrant. Your life a beautiful life indeed is just on the other side of the threshold of gratitude. I think of it as a garden, or even a symphony, or maybe an aromatic, fragrant, sweet kind of life. You go through the door of gratitude and your life will be blessed. But you stay outside that door or miss altogether the fact that there even is such a door and you get to live in the desolation of selfishness. And you're going to position yourself for a hard knock life any journey Remember that it's a hard knock hard knock life. Because gratitude makes all the difference, not just a difference. It makes all the difference.

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It's very sad to be around a person who struggles with ingratitude. When author said and I it's he's anonymous, I don't know or maybe she we don't know. But said ingratitude is the ringleader and the chief instigator to every other kind of evil. I think that's true, don't you? People who struggle with ingratitude. So let's talk about that a moment. What can you expect from a life of ingratitude? Well, it's quite a list indeed. And one of the first things I think about is if you have a life of ingratitude, then you have an unhappy life. For sure 100% Because you can't be thankful for what you already have. That means your focus is on what you don't have. And people who go through life with their focus on what they don't have. They're never content, contentment eludes them there are always reaching and striving and desiring more, it actually leads to greed. Because I want more, I'm hungry and lusting for more, and I'm not satisfied. Now there's a an element to not being satisfied that that's okay. To be driven to want to accomplish and to experience more, but I'm talking about at the core and negative, unhappy, jealous individual who doesn't end up being happy for someone else for what they have, instead reflects back on, wow, I can't be happy for them. Because I don't have that. What if they outshine me? What if they have more than I do? So in gratitude definitely leads to an unhappy life. It leads to greed. It leads to negativity, as we just moment mentioned a moment ago, and it leads to jealousy. ingratitude also leads to entitlement. Instead of serving the world, you think the world is here to serve you? You even think a The world owes me who says, By the way, what Well, I don't get what I deserve. Well, you know what, if we all got what we deserve, we would be in a world of hurts, I'm glad I don't get what I deserve. The world doesn't owe us anything. We take 100% responsibility for our life. And we should be thankful and grateful for each new breath that we take each and every day. thankful for the fact that our eyes opened up today and our heart is still beating. Okay, I'm gonna get preaching if I don't move on. But here's here's another danger of ingratitude, an ego, narcissistic. It's all about me. And I'm better than everyone else, when I'm not grateful. There's no humility to me. It's like, well, of course, I'm better than you. Of course, I deserve this, of course, that it's all about me. Why wouldn't it be. And that my friend leads to the next thing, which is a narcissistic person, and in grateful person, I think ends up being a very lonely person. Relationships are not sustainable with a person who is in grateful. A relationship at any deep level is not manageable when someone in their relationship thinks it's all about them. When someone thinks that the world owes me, and I'm focusing all the time on what I don't have. So I believe that people who are not grateful and are not thankful end up being lonely people end up being isolated from the beauty of others, and from the experience of just just being so grateful for everything that you have in your life. And then if you don't have those things, you just end up being critical. Have you ever met that person, just critical? Just nothing is ever good enough? Nothing has ever right? Nothing is ever well done. There is no accomplishment to be grateful for. There's no appreciation, there's no. You're not able to tell someone else. Good job. You're not able to encourage anyone else because hey, you just critical. It's not good enough. And it all stems back to a life of ingratitude.

But that's not us brave hearted women. That's not who you are, my friend. You are not going to live a life that's unhappy. You're not going to live a life of entitlement. You're not going to have an ego that's so large. There's only room for one of you in the car. No, no, no, no. You're not going to live a lonely life, you're going to have beautiful, True and loyal friends. You're not a person who is critical or jealous, you're not filled with greed. You're not negative. You are a brave hearted woman. You're a woman who is thankful and grateful. And every day you can think of at least three things that you are so thankful for, and so grateful for and each day, I want you to practice catching yourself, should you ever begin to go down the pathway of ingratitude, that you will stop yourself and turn around and say the doorway to a blessed life is through Thanksgiving, the threshold of a life that's filled like a garden, a symphony, a life that has a sense sweet, beautiful aroma is through the entrance, a Thanksgiving and gratitude. In fact, by the way, it's the same way that we are told we enter into the presence of the Lord through Thanksgiving. It is a doorway. It is an archway, it is the secret path into a blessed life. So make sure that you find it. Make sure that the water of your soul that splashing on other people is not the negative, unhappy greed, the comparisons, the jealousy, or the entitlement, make sure that the water of your soul that splashing on others is not this narcissistic ego. No, that's not you. not critical. You're a brave hearted woman. So here, I want to leave you with this. Okay, this is a quote from ch Spurgeon. If I did not praise him, bless Christ, my lord, I should deserve to have my tongue torn out by its very roots right out of my mouth. If I did not bless and magnify his name, I should deserve that every stone I tread on in the streets should rise up to curse my in gratitude. For I am a drowned debtor, to the mercy of God overhead and ears, to infinite love and boundless compassion. I am a debtor. Are you not the same? Then I charge you by the Love of Christ Awake, awake your hearts now to magnify His Glorious Name. That's beautiful, isn't it? And I just want to echo this Awake, awake, my sister, awake, my brave hearted friend, to understand that God has given you greatness. Be grateful, and be thankful. This is again, a skill that you can cultivate, learn to see the life of yours that you live through the lenses of Thanksgiving, and watch how your life will change. Alright, I hope you've enjoyed this and that it's been helpful to you, share it with someone review, like me, love me, say a prayer for me, and I'll do the same for you. This is Dawn Damon, your Braveheart mentor, reminding you to find your brave and live your vision

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